“Yes, she fears the cuffs, the cross and the whip, but she will get past this. Such problems, even with time, do not go away on their own. They must be addressed.André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“Pleasure, pleasure, pleasure! Always your goal is pleasure. Pain, yes of course! Yet pain must only be used as a means to add to your sub’s sensation of pleasure. To do otherwise is un péché noir – a black sin. Such will tarnish the soul. André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“BDSM is like visiting a kinky Amusement Park. Once you pay the entry fee, you hop on an erotic roller coaster of deviant self-discovery. Although I have the threat of pain before me, I’m not even close to wanting to get off of this ride. It’s such a fucking thrill. Or is that a thrilling fuck? Whatever. Either way, it’s as hot as hell.”
— Nikki Sex
“Pain is not the most important tool in Dominance and submission, yet it is a most worthy tool. Pain breaks down barriers and defences. And for intensifying the orgasm? There are few superior devices a Dom has to achieve such, other than varying degrees of pain.”
— Nikki Sex
“Some truths can be only be found when one looks with the heart, not the eyes.” – André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“A person tends to believe whatever is repeated over and over, whether it is true or not.”
— Nikki Sex
“When you say, ‘Women are untrustworthy bitches. They lie and cheat and will nail anything that moves.’ Do you know what I hear from your lips? Listen now, for I shall tell you. I hear you speak these words: ‘I am an untrustworthy bastard. I lie and cheat and nail anything that moves.’ André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“Behave,” Kurt said, and slapped her buttocks. “Didn’t I tell you to be still? Your job is to focus on my will and let me use your body. It’s here for my pleasure, remember?”
— Nikki Sex
“Like icebergs, people normally expose only a small part of themselves, and generally just the part they wish to show.”
— Nikki Sex
“Abuse is a parasite that feeds off hate and shame, growing in size and strength with silence.”
— Nikki Sex
“Denial can be a most useful, temporary shield. Unfortunately, such flimsy armor will not last a lifetime. It is best to face your past, and do so quickly, before your past returns to face you.”— André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“Strange how mean words can return to ones thoughts, years after they’ve been callously thrown at you. They replay in your mind, spiking a sense of remembered pain. Nasty name calling can be an ugly memory that stabs unexpectedly—not unlike a nightmare where you wake up crying. Sticks and stones, may break your bones—yet, cruel names can hurt you.”
— Nikki Sex
“The patterns learned as a child, repeat as an adult. Those with an abusive childhood are very often oh-so blind to this inescapable truth.— André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“Facing one’s past can be a perilous activity. For the client, joy must exceed misery. Personal successes must far outweigh losses. Pleasure must exceed pain. Always. Always. To do otherwise is a failure of the counselor.— André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“What has been done to you is one thing. Yet to really suffer, to truly be burdened with guilt and shame, such pain always begins not with what has been done to you—but with what you have done. André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“Men? They are simple creatures. Is there something wrong with your man? Feed him, and take him to your bed. Et Voila! All problems, they disappear. But if something is wrong with the woman? Je suis désolé. Women need to talk.– André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“In life I would much prefer to be sinned upon than the sinner. It is easier, vous comprenez? With the clear conscience one sleeps very well. The sinner may deny it… but in his heart he knows. He does not deserve to be happy.”
— Nikki Sex
“The actions and emotional responses of others are not your responsibility. You cannot rescue people from themselves. This is for them to do. — André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“The “Fatal Female Flaw.” It’s when ordinarily sensible women fall madly in love with an unattainable man who can’t or won’t love them back. I also call it the Triple Fucked Factor.Rosslyn”
— Nikki Sex
“Mostly, it is lies that will destroy a relationship. Deceit is a barrier to intimacy. André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“Abuse? Ah. Such problems, even with time, do not go away on their own. They must be addressed. André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“Life’s most obvious truths are the hardest to see but once you’ve burned everything to the ground they are the only things left standing.André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“I love the passions. They create such sensation! Anger, grief, fear, love, hate, excitement. The fierce emotions make one feel. Such are a gift, so one knows one is alive. To live without passion is to have no life at all.”
— Nikki Sex
“Find one person to trust—there need only be one. With them, share every shame, every secret and listen to theirs… with love. Bare hearts and souls until there is understanding. Of a certainty, such honest exposure is the first step toward happiness. — André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“I have found that sometimes when a person gives up on ‘humankind’ they can often find trust and love in animal kind. André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“The child, through no fault of its own, and through the very nature of being a child, is egocentric and self-absorbed. Thus, if the daughter does not make her bed, and the mother yells, and the father beats the mother – then the daughter believes all that happened is her fault. Why? Because she did not make the bed, do you see? André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“If parents don’t want to hear the truth, children learn not to speak it.”
— Nikki Sex
“A child, without toxic interference, will naturally become the person they are meant to be. André Chevalier”
— Nikki Sex
“I was craving a chance at the lifelong fantasy, and I had that. That was a one-off thing. I was looking for an experience, Eric, not wanting to cultivate a habit.”
— Nikki Sex