“I like birthday cake. It’s so symbolic. It’s a tempting symbol to load with something more complicated than just ‘Happy birthday!’ because it’s this emblem of childhood and a happy day.”
— Aimee Bender
“I give boring people something to discuss over corn.”
— Aimee Bender
“It was the kind of conversation you could only hold in whispers.”
— Aimee Bender
“He made a good salary but he did not flaunt it. He’d been raised in Chicago proper by a Lithuanian Jewish mother who had grown up in poverty, telling stories, often, of extending a chicken to its fullest capacity, so as soon as a restaurant served his dish, he would promptly cut it in half and ask for a to-go container. Portions are too big anyway, he’d grumble, patting his waistline. He’d only give away his food if the corners were cleanly cut, as he believed a homeless person would just feel worse eating food with ragged bitemarks at the edges – as if, he said, they are dogs, or bacteria. Dignity, he said, lifting his half-lasagna into its box, is no detail.”
— Aimee Bender
“We’re like the couple on the sitcom that has good sparks but never get together for the sake of ratings.”
— Aimee Bender
“Nothing…They’re from nothing,’ he said. ‘They came in the book…I found the book and inside were these flowers…They were in the book when I bought it… I bought it used…Because they meant something.”‘To someone else.’ ‘To someone.”
— Aimee Bender
“It is difficult to want to tell a grave that it is not immortal. It’s so obvious at that point.”
— Aimee Bender
“I wanted to bathe in plum juice, rediscover my body and adorn it in kiwi circles.”
— Aimee Bender
“George Malcolm: half white, half black, with messy tousled hair, rumpled and tugged between kind of curly and extremely curly. Once, a year or so before, he’d been at our house and he’d pulled out a lock of his hair and used it to teach me about eddies and helixes. It’s a circular current into a central station, he’d explained, giving me one to hold. I pulled on the spring. Nature is full of the same shapes, he said, taking me to the bathroom sink and spinning on the top and pointing out the way the water swirled down the drain. Taking me to the bookshelf and flipping open a book on weather and showing me a cyclone. Then a spiral galaxy. Pulling me back to the bathroom sink, to my glass jar of collected seashells, and pointing out the same curl in a miniature conch. See? he said, holding the seashell up to his hair. Yes! I clapped. His eyes were warm with teaching pleasure. It’s galactic hair, he said, smiling.At school, George was legendary already. He was so natural at physics that one afternoon the eighth-grade science teacher had asked him to do a preview of the basics of relativity, really fast, for the class. George had stood up and done such a fine job, using a paperweight and a yardstick and the standard-issue school clock, that the teacher had pulled a twenty-dollar bill from his wallet. I’d like to be the first person to pay you for your clarity of mind, the teacher had said. George used the cash to order pizza for the class. Double pepperoni, he told me later, when I’d asked.”
— Aimee Bender
“But the sky is interesting, it changes all the time.”
— Aimee Bender
“You can ruin anything if you focus at it.”
— Aimee Bender
“The best way I can think to describe it, she said, ‘ is the way, when you’re driving on the freeway at night how everyone can see the moon in their window. Every car on the road. Every car feels the moon is following that car, even in the other direction, right? Everyone in that entire hemisphere can see the moon and think it is there for them, is following where they go.”
— Aimee Bender
“It was ridiculous, at times, how many tears one body could produce.”
— Aimee Bender
“He had set up a telescope on a corner of the roof, and we went up to take a look.This is time travel, he said, narrowing an eye to set the lens. Because the light is old. We’re seeing back in time.No, we said, wrinkling our noses. We are seeing right now, today.No, he said, the light has to travel to us and it takes millions of years. What you’re seeing is time. Excuse me, we said. We were embarrassed to correct him. He seemed so smart. What we’re seeing is space.It’s space, yes, he said. It’s also time. You’re seeing what has already happened.”
— Aimee Bender
“The phone is about the same size as a cigarette pack. It’s no surprise to me that the traditional cigarette lighter in many cars has turned into the space we use to recharge our phones. They are kin. The phone, like the cigarette, let’s the texter/former smoker drop out of any social interaction for a second to get a break and make a little love to the beautiful object. We need something, people. We can’t live propless.”
— Aimee Bender
“And, sure, fine, I do check my phone about every two minutes, but so do a lot of people, and it’s better than smoking, that’s what I say. It’s the new, lung-safe cigarette.”
— Aimee Bender
“There are students that are scattered, who need to see something through to the finish, but I would say there are possibly more who do not entertain the leaps of the mind that need to be nurtured, and this desire to finish becomes more about being a good student than about finishing something interesting. Where does work ethic fit in with writing? I think that’s pretty complicated from one writer to the next. You need some kind of work ethic, but what does it look like for you?”
— Aimee Bender
“…after all, she had birthed us alone, diapered and fed us, helped us with homework, kissed and hugged us, poured her love into us. That she might not actually know us seemed the humblest thing a mother could admit.”
— Aimee Bender
“Many kids, it seemed, would find out that their parents were flawed, messed-up people later in life, and I didn’t appreciate getting to know it all so strong and early.”
— Aimee Bender
“Mom loved my brother more. Not that she didn’t love me – I felt the wash of her love every day, pouring over me, but it was a different kind, siphoned from a different, and tamer, body of water. I was her darling daughter; Joseph was her it.”
— Aimee Bender
“I peeled the skin off a grape in slippery little triangles, and I understood then that I would be undressing every item of food I could because my clothes would be staying on.”
— Aimee Bender
“That’s the thing with handmade items. They still have the person’s mark on them, and when you hold them, you feel less alone.”
— Aimee Bender
“It’s tempting to think of red for sun,” she said, “but it has to be just a dash, not much. More of a dark orange and a hint of brown. And then white on yellow on white. Not bright white,’ she said. ‘The kind of white that makes you squint, but in a softer way…”Go look at fire for a while. Go spend some time with fire.’Looking at fire was interesting, I have to admit. I sat with a candle for a couple hours. It has these stages of color: the white, the yellow, the red, the tiny spot of blue I’d heard mentioned but never noticed.”
— Aimee Bender
“But rock, of course, is many colors. The distinction is subtle, but it is not just one plain grey, that I can promise…I spent five hours one afternoon just staring at a rock trying to see into its color scheme.”
— Aimee Bender
“We end up kissing her for an hour, and her lips are so soft they are almost like a joke.”
— Aimee Bender
“Ponytail girl leaned over and she and the tall boy kissed and it was carcinogen gums and magical.”
— Aimee Bender
“She could feel it brimming on her lips, that superstar smile, the bow shape, the teeth long and solid tombstones.”
— Aimee Bender
“In general, I call her every night, and we talk for an hour, which is forty-five minutes of me, and fifteen minutes of her stirring her tea, which she steeps with the kind of Zen patience that would make Buddhists sit up in envy and then breathe through their envy and then move past their envy.”
— Aimee Bender
“He said, I always thought the woman I’d marry would hit me easy, in a bolt of lightning, and there is not lightning there is not even thunder there is not even rain.”
— Aimee Bender
“At lunch you order steamed vegetables because you’re remembering that you have a heart too. You feel humbled by your heart, it works so hard. You want to thank it. You give your heart a little pat”
— Aimee Bender