“If only I could spend all days surrounded by people brave enough to open their hearts for real.”
— Scott Stabile
“The only way to free yourself from all the anxiety you’re feeling about the difficult conversation you know you need to have is by having the difficult conversation. It’s time. It’s been time. You’ll survive it. Just be brave and start talking.”
— Scott Stabile
“You get a medal for being tough.”
— Scott Stabile
“listen to me,you’ve got this.seriously, you’ve got this.”
— Scott Stabile
“there are no quick fixes. If we want our lives to change, we have to do the work.”
— Scott Stabile
“How can we expect the world to change if we are unwilling to change ourselves? We hate the haters, judge the judgers, and refuse to forgive the supposed unforgivable. We are hypocrites, most of us, comfortable condemning others for the same things we do. Like sheep we follow, like wolves we attack, like fools we listen to the loudest voices, even when they scream nothing but hate. We are lost in our desire to be like everyone else, and paralyzed in our fear to be ourselves. We are desperate to feel safe amidst our cries for retaliation and more wars. Where is the common sense? If we want to end war, then be peaceful. If we want to know love, then stop hating. if we want to find happiness, then let go of negativity, and befriend gratitude. real change isn’t born from making the same choices over and over, especially choices muddied with insecurity and fear. we can’t wrest ourselves from darkness by turning out our light. everything just gets darker then. Let’s worry less about changing the world and more about changing ourselves. That, we can do, each one of us. With commitment and work. And a single candle does wonders in even the darkest of nights.”
— Scott Stabile
“Compassion will lead you to extraordinary worlds your fear doesn’t dare visit.”
— Scott Stabile
“We rarely find answers in the distractions. But oh what possibilities live within the quiet of solitude.In my fear to be alone,I distracted myself away from the deep beauty of my own solitude.”
— Scott Stabile
“Books and workshops and gurus are great, but the very best teacher for your mind is, and will always be, your heart.”
— Scott Stabile
“I’m realizing that some of my greatest (or at least most determined) genius lies in my ability to procrastinate.”
— Scott Stabile
“Often we have to remind our minds that the job of asshole is already taken.”
— Scott Stabile
“And then it hit me—I don’t have to participate in these toxic conversations.But if I choose to, I can set a different example. I can bring love to the moment, regardless of the response.I can choose to be kind, no matter what.My power lives in my love.”
— Scott Stabile
“Our differences are beautiful, yet sometimes connection requires us to focus on our similarities, like the fact that we are all trying, all struggling, all wanting to be seen and to be loved. Perhaps if we start there, with this basic understanding of what it means to be alive, we will grow in our connection to one another and learn to love the beautiful differences that embody our improbable human reality.”
— Scott Stabile
“Find people who can handle your darkest truths, who don’t change the subject when you share your pain, or try to make you feel bad for feeling bad. Find people who understand we all struggle, some of us more than others, and that there’s no weakness in admitting it. Find people who want to be real, however that looks and feels, and who want you to be real, too. Find people who get that life is hard, and who get that life is also beautiful, and who aren’t afraid to honor both of those realities. Find people who help you feel more at home in your heart, mind and body, and who take joy in your joy. Find people who love you, for real, and who accept you, for real. Just as you are. They’re out there, these people. Your tribe is waiting for you. Don’t stop searching until you find them.”
— Scott Stabile
“Let’s never stop holding each other’s hands.We all need to have our hand held sometimes.”
— Scott Stabile
“Vulnerability supported by love is perhaps the most powerful catalyst for real connection.”
— Scott Stabile
“Don’t stay because you think you can change him.You can’t change him.Maybe work on changing yourself so you don’t feel compelled to stay with menlike him in the first place.”
— Scott Stabile
“She wished she liked him more.She wished she loved him less.”
— Scott Stabile
“I changed for the better when I quit expecting others to.”
— Scott Stabile
“I forgive you, but I won’t forget what you did…not in some threatening, I don’t really forgive you kind of way… but just because what you did was shitty and really hurt me and I can’t imagine it suddenly disappearing from my memory. In a way, it’s even cooler that I’ll remember that shitty thing you did to me, and you’ll remember that shitty thing I did to you. That means we didn’t need to forget that we hurt each other in order to love each other still. We figured out a way to forgive each other, for real, and still be friends. How beautiful, yes? Let’s never forget that, either.”
— Scott Stabile
“Life changes completely when Love comes first.I don’t need to know you to love you. I’ll start by loving you and see what I come to know from there.”
— Scott Stabile
“If you want to change someone, start and end with yourself. You’re all you’ve got control over.yes, other people can change.no, you can’t change other people.”
— Scott Stabile
“I will love you through everything. Can you do yourself the same honor?”
— Scott Stabile
“When someone rejects you, for whatever reason, that rejection reflects their wants, not your limitations. you are in no way defined by the rejection, or the acceptance, of anyone else. your worth depends on no one. and as hard as it can be to see it as such, there is just as big a gift in not connecting with those who don’t see your value, as there is in uniting with those who do.”
— Scott Stabile
“We loved each other.We hurt each other.We left each other.Now we hate each other.Let’s not stop there.Let’s finally forgive each other.”
— Scott Stabile
“We have to be willing to acknowledge the good, or all we bring is bitterness to the bad, and that doesn’t help make things any better.”
— Scott Stabile
“Will you ever stop needing to be right?Will I ever stop needing you to be?”
— Scott Stabile
“Forgiveness and Blame share an apartment, but not for long, because Blame can’t live with Forgiveness, and Forgiveness can’t live with Blame.”
— Scott Stabile
“I’ve found a new kind of home in us, and I’m ready to move in for good.”
— Scott Stabile
“I do love you, but I can no longer wait for you to figure out how to love me in a way that makes us both feel good.”
— Scott Stabile