“Hey, Beautiful…There is room for all that you are and everything you have to offer our world.Share yourself.”
— Scott Stabile
“Maybe you’re not breaking down.Maybe you’re breaking through.”
— Scott Stabile
“Option A:Spend your life trying to get others to accept you.Option B:Accept yourself, and spend your life with others who recognize what a beauty you are.”
— Scott Stabile
“Compassion grows in the recognition that we are all the same.If you can’t see some part of yourself in every single person you encounter, then you’re not looking closely enough, at the person or at yourself.”
— Scott Stabile
“We are all many things. Sometimes people get used to us being the one thing they most expect from us, and they don’t know how to handle the other many things we are and have to offer. This is not our limitation to own. Let’s be whatever many things our heart calls us to be. There’s not a lot of consistency in freedom, aside from fluid movement among the many things we are. And that’s a mighty beautiful thing.”
— Scott Stabile
“We are here to love. Everything else is distraction.”
— Scott Stabile
“My fear whispered to me, I am just trying to protect you.I whispered back, I know, but I’m stronger than you think.”
— Scott Stabile
“Everything is not a competition. In fact, nothing is, unless we make it so. Let’s stand with, not against each other. We’re all bringing our own magic to this world. It’s not about “greater than” or “less than.”We can’t be in competition with each other if we just refuse to compete.”
— Scott Stabile
“Sometimes I act like I have my shit together more than I do. Sometimes I act like I don’t have my shit together as much as I do. I’m done acting. I’d rather just be okay with however together my shit is at the time, and still do my best to show up, as I am.”
— Scott Stabile
“I see you. I see your strength and courage, your hesitations and fears. I see the way you love others, and your struggle to love yourself.I see how hard you work to grow, and your dedication to heal. I see your vulnerable humanity, and your transcendent divinity.I see you, and I love what I see.”
— Scott Stabile
“Why not to choose to believe in yourself, just to see what happens?”
— Scott Stabile
“Our difference are beautiful yet sometimes connection requires us to focus on our similarities, like the fact that we are all trying, all struggling, all wanting to be seen and to be loved. Perhaps if we start there, with this basic understanding of what it means to be alive, we will grow in our connection to one another and learn to love the beautiful difference that embody our improbable human reality.”
— Scott Stabile
“I know it’s hard sometimes to recognize how truly beautiful you are, and how truly worthy of love you have always been and will always be. It’s hard sometimes to see the truth of your divinity amidst the closed, judgmental opinions of the outside world, and of your own critical mind. But your beauty and your worthiness have nothing to do with anyone’s opinions, or anyone’s mind, not even your own. Your real truth lives in the heart, and your heart, as big and open and generous as it is, will never stop marveling at your stunning existence.”
— Scott Stabile
“Thank you for being such a beautiful friend. I am in awe of you.”
— Scott Stabile
“Um, enough apologies, okay?Just get on with being your badass self.”
— Scott Stabile
“We can’t always be as brave as we want or need to be. We don’t always make the harder choice, the one we know we need to make in order to change things for real. Sometimes we give in to our fear. We choose known over unknown, comfort over uncertainty. Even though that’s often not ideal—to create our lives from fear—it’s definitely human. And, it’s okay. Our courage doesn’t suddenly disappear just because we choose to ignore it. It may hide for a bit and make us work a little harder for its attention, but it’s always there within us. We are born courageous, after all. Beautiful and brave. Whenever we get tired of playing at life with fear’s rules, at last determined to change things for real, our courage will be there—ready, able, excited for us to let it do its thing.”
— Scott Stabile
“I’m trusting that the pain of letting go will be eclipsed by the relief of moving on.”
— Scott Stabile
“I had to break to pieces, so I could reassemble even stronger.”
— Scott Stabile
“Listen to me, you’ve got this. Seriously, you’ve got this.”
— Scott Stabile
“Isn’t it time to start giving yourself the great gift of your own love?”
— Scott Stabile
“You don’t have to do the same things you’ve always done, if it no longer feels good to do them. Give yourself permission to try something different, something new. Give yourself permission to break away from routine and obligation. Permission to explore, and to soar.”
— Scott Stabile
“You can’t do everything for everyone, not even for yourself. It’s okay to ask for help when you need it.”
— Scott Stabile
“I used to listen to all the voices in my head that told me I wasn’t good enough, or that I would fail if I tried, or that everyone would judge me harshly for my truth. I used to let one fear or the other dictate how I chose to live my life. Not surprisingly, my life didn’t change much. I spent a lot of time with regret, and thinking about what could have been. I found myself wishing I’d at least tried to do some of the things I’d been so afraid to do. So I began to. I made the choice to hear all the fearful critics in my head without actually listening to them. I gave them a voice, but no longer a say. I had given all the power to my fear, after all, so it was within me to take it away. And my entire life changed, as every life does once we insist that our fears take a backseat to our courage and desire. Fear may not be a choice, but the commitment to take brave action, despite our fears, is always there for the choosing. I spent enough time obeying my fears. Too much time. Now I listen to different voices, the ones reminding me that no matter what happens, no matter what people think, the great potential of my life, and joy, lives within my commitment to live my life beyond my fear.”
— Scott Stabile
“It’s amazing to consider just how many people smile at the thought of you.”
— Scott Stabile
“you get to a point when you just don’t want to be pushed anymore. pushed to pretend you’re okay with condescending behavior and disrespectful attitudes. pushed to ignore the determined yearnings of your clearest truth. pushed to engage in conversations and situations that in no way serve your state of peace. pushed to act a bogus part and clap for those who are acting theirs. pushed to be quiet and to stay small. pushed to exist rather than live. you get to a point when it’s all too much, too exhausting, too false. something must change. then you realize that the changes you crave have always been within your power to create. you realize that no one has the might to push you into anything when you are unwilling to be pushed. you realize that you, more effectively than any outside influence, have been your biggest pusher all along. so you stop—pushing and pretending and acting and shrinking. you stop it all, because you can. and you don’t waste too much time regretting that you didn’t do it sooner. you’re suddenly much too busy living your life for such silly regrets.”
— Scott Stabile
“Today, I choose not to take my life for granted.I choose not to look upon the fact that I am healthy, have food in my refrigerator and have clean water to drink as givens. They are not givens for so many people in our world. The fact that I am safe and (relatively) sane are not givens. That I was born into a family who loves me and into a country not ravaged by war are not givens. It is impossible to name all of the circumstances in my life I’ve taken for granted. All of the basic needs I’ve had met, all of the friendships and job opportunities and financial blessings and the list, truly, is endless. The fact that I am breathing is a miracle, one I too rarely stop to appreciate.I’m stopping, right now, to be grateful for everything I am and everything I’ve been given. I’m stopping, right now, to be grateful for every pleasure and every pain that has contributed to the me who sits here and writes these words.I am thankful for my life. This moment is a blessing. Each breath a gift. That I’ve been able to take so much for granted is a gift, too. But it’s not how I want to live—not when gratitude is an option, not when wonder and awe are choices.I choose gratitude. I choose wonder. I choose awe. I choose everything that suggests I’m opening myself to the miraculous reality of simply being alive for one moment more.”
— Scott Stabile
“i’m afraid i’ll lose you if i share all that’s real.i’m afraid i’ll lose myself if i don’t.”
— Scott Stabile
“When our desire for truth outweighs our fear of change, we make choices that serve an open heart rather than a closed mind.”
— Scott Stabile
“you are a person, not a shredder.so quit tearing yourself to shreds.”
— Scott Stabile
“your enoughness is off the charts.”
— Scott Stabile