“No one else can stop us from loving ourselves, just as no one else is to blame when we don’t. I promise to stop blaming your for everything I don’t like about myself.”
— Scott Stabile
“When our desire for truth outweighs our fear of change, we make choices that serve an open heart rather than a closed mind.”
— Scott Stabile
“you are a person, not a shredder.so quit tearing yourself to shreds.”
— Scott Stabile
“A change of attitude changes everything.A bad attitude never leads to a good life.”
— Scott Stabile
“my beautiful friend,even on your darkest day i have benefited from the warmth of your light. and i know i’m not the only one. even when you are not consciously giving, you are still giving so much. with your openness, your kindness, your understanding. see yourself through my eyes, for just a moment. feel yourself through my heart.Allow me the honor of reflecting back to you the love you have shown me, time and again, when it was only real love, and real friendship that could have pulled me from the pain. let me take some of your pain now. I am here. I am yours. You are mine, my friend. I am grateful.”
— Scott Stabile
“I am learning to accept everything about myself,even the part of me that struggles to accept everything about myself.”
— Scott Stabile
“Become more committed to seeing what’s right about you than you are to seeing what’s wrong, and soon you’ll start to feel a lot different about yourself.”
— Scott Stabile
“You know the doubts. You are good enough. You are important. You are worthy. You are kind. You are all you need to be. You are love.”
— Scott Stabile
“He used to hide his true self because he feared people wouldn’t like him, or would judge him for being too much this and not enough that. He found himself acting like everyone else, even though his heart wanted to express itself in ways that felt different than much of what he was seeing in the world. His heart grew louder, and he longed to taste a different kind of freedom, one his mind had worked hard to contain in order to keep him feeling safe. But that safety came with a price: his authenticity. Then it occurred to him, some people would judge him no matter who he was or what he did. And that if he was going to be judged anyway, he may as well live his life as authentically as possible and at least be judged for his truth. He also knew some people would love him no matter who he was or what he did, and how much better it would feel to be loved for being real.”
— Scott Stabile
“I’m in awe of the people who manage their difficult lives with little complaint, those who have suffered more than their fair share of pain, and understand things could have been much worse, those who take the time to be grateful for the important things, and who never give up on themselves or their lives. It’s no easy feat to stay optimistic when life has shown you too much darkness, yet our world is filled with these steady, strong, resilient warriors of the light. From them, we have so much to learn.”
— Scott Stabile
“We can’t act cruelly toward others without also being negatively affected by our actions. We really are all connected, deeper than we know. If we can’t be kinder to each other simply because it’s the compassionate and loving way to be, the less remember that when we hurt others, we hurt ourselves, too. Every single time. Just one more reason to treat each other well.”
— Scott Stabile
“If you’ve given your all, and it’s still not working, it’s likely time to move on.”
— Scott Stabile
“She felt likee doing her part to change the world, so she started by giving thanks for all the blessings of her life, rather than bemoaning all that was missing from it. Then she complimented her reflection in the mirror, instead of criticizing it as she usually did. Next she walked into her neighborhood and offered her smile to everyone she passed, whether or not they offered theirs to her. Each day she did these things, and soon they became habit. Each day she lived with more gratitude, more acceptance, more kindnesss. And sure enough, the world around her began to change. Because she had decided so, she was single-handedly doing her part to change it”
— Scott Stabile
“It’s important to work on our personal growth, and part of that work is learning, and accepting the fact that we are absolutely enough, as we are. Some of our most profound changes manifest by simply embracing who we’ve been all along.”
— Scott Stabile
“There is no downside to taking care of yourself.”
— Scott Stabile
“A great giftwe can giveto ourselvesis a willingnessto love everyone,no matter what.This frees us completely from the toxicjustificationswe use to hate.”
— Scott Stabile
“Share your gifts. Learn from the gifts of others.Stay open to whichever role — teacher and/or student — life is calling on you to play. And bring as much acceptance and love to each performance.When we walk through life as only a teacher, we miss out on learning from the world around us.When we walk through life as only a student, we miss out on sharing our unique vision of the world.”
— Scott Stabile
“Today is a day, like every other day, brimming with possibility. A day to treat people with kindness and respect. A day to move closer to fulfilling your dreams. A day to forgive yourself for absolutely everything. A day to smile with gratitude. Today is a day, like every other day, to create the kind of life you want to live, the kind that makes you feel good and right, the kind of life you were born to realize. Today.”
— Scott Stabile
“Of course change is hard. It has to be. It carries with it – every single time – the potential to elevate, even revolutionize your life in ways you can never truly realize until you’re already transformed, safely on the other side of your resistance and fear. Change is hard, but rarely as difficult as not doing anything.Now is the time – really, right now – to start making those changes you know you need to make in your life. Dive into change, into the sea of possibility it creates, and trust that all the hard work will bring you some deeply wonderful things – like a greater sense of calm and happiness, and a truer taste of freedom.If you can’t dive in, that’s okay. Tip toe, baby step, crawl if you have to. Just keep moving forward, no matter what, into what is already becoming your new and beautiful reality.”
— Scott Stabile
“I’ve wasted a lot of time in my life waiting for good things to happen, rather than acting to make them happen.What I’ve learned?Waiting suffocates power. Acting ignites it.Waiting feeds anxiety. Acting relaxes it. Waiting fuels boredom. Acting repels it. Waiting galvanizes fear. Acting subdues it. Your life will not change any sooner while you wait around for something new. But it just may transform at warp speed once you take action to change it. I’m tired of wasting time, of waiting time. How about you?Act, don’t wait.”
— Scott Stabile
“He lifted himself out of the darkness of his fears, into a bright new world of possibility.”
— Scott Stabile
“beneath the pain of your fears, wild and ready, lives your truth, the essence of your singular beauty, hoping, waiting for you to set it free.”
— Scott Stabile
“He knew his words could not convey the impossible love he felt for her, so he held her stare and hoped (prayed!) she would understand the immensity of it all.”
— Scott Stabile
“She shot out of her seat, tired of waiting, at last ready to create her future.”
— Scott Stabile
“Anger gets me going.Hope sustains me.”
— Scott Stabile
“I look around and see so much fear, people getting more and more comfortable with their hate, more at ease being mean, more united in their separation. And I think, NO. Not me. I will not get lost in this fearful world. I will not play with bullies. I will continue to be brave and kind. I will speak for real unity. And no matter what, I will never stop loving.”
— Scott Stabile
“Don’t let the lies that darken our world keep you from living within your truth.”
— Scott Stabile
“We all get in a funk sometimes.It doesn’t mean you’re failing, or ungrateful, or stupid, or lost. It means you’re human.The Funk happens. For all of us. We can’t be happy all the time. We don’t need to be.”
— Scott Stabile
“If you can’t forget about all the great pains you’ve endured, as many of us can’t, at least take some time to celebrate the fact that you’ve somehow kept going, in spite of it all. And you’ve certainly kept growing, because of it all.”
— Scott Stabile
“We can’t really know what relationships will last or not last in our lives, romantic and otherwise. What we can do is give the best we’ve got to the relationships we’ve chosen for ourselves. We can show up with an open heart and mind, be grateful for the exchange of love, and trust in however these relationships evolve. We can also be grateful for the relationships that have ended, trusting that we received from them something important that has helped to move us farther along our paths.”
— Scott Stabile